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Monday, January 31, 2011
Uscados
But make sure you're in a long-term, committed relationship because otherwise your uscados can suddenly become useless as they are not transferable to a new relationship :)
Isolde's New Blog Buddy
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Thank You Bejla!
Via Anna's iPhone
Thursday, January 27, 2011
The Birth
I woke up around 6 or 7 in the morning of Saturday 8 January and felt something was going on. I had menstrual type pains maybe 10 minutes apart. I went back to sleep and when I woke up again around 9am the pain was stronger and coming every 5-6 minutes. I woke Peter with a "don't get scared but I think I'm in labour", to which he responded "but I haven't finished packing yet!" and jumped out of bed :)
We ate breakfast, I took a shower and we finished packing that bag. By 11:30am my contractions were still a bit irregular; some 5-6 minutes apart but most 3-4 minutes apart, so we called the hospital. They said they were currently full and that since my contractions were iregular and I seemed to be managing (thanks to the breathing classes), I should stay at home a bit longer.
So we, or I, endured for another few hours. We had lunch. But by 3pm my contractions were at least 3-4 minutes apart and sometimes only 1-2 minutes apart. So we called again, twice. The first time they said that they would have a room free soon and could we hold on a bit longer. The second time, around 15:45, they said we could come in for a check-up (to see how much dilated I was) and then they'd see what they could do (when they are full they call around to other hospitals to find you a space, you don't need to do it yourself). We decided to take our time so that the room would definitely be ready by the time we arrived. And once we were ready to leave I wasn't that fast, as moving about, putting my jacket on, getting into the car, etc. was a bit arduous with regular oncoming contractions. Hence we didn't get to the hospital until some time after 5pm, by which time there was indeed a vacant room for us.
At the hospital
17:30 - We arrived to the hospital and I was greeted by midwife Gunilla. She examined me and found that I was 4 cm dilated and that the baby's head was still adjustable and could be pushed upwards. My water had not broken yet but they could feel that the amniotic sac was bulging. They hooked me up to a fetal monitor to measure the baby's heart rate a well as my contractions.
18:30 - The baby's CTG was normal so the equipment was removed for the time being. I was managing by using breathing technique at this stage.
19:00 - I started taking a shower for pain alleviation and stayed there for two hours...
21:15 - I started using the laughing gas. First I didn't think it helped much but then I learned the technique I guess because suddenly I felt a rush and realised what it was all about! However, as it takes 20 seconds before the gas has effect, which means you have to inhale the gas early when you first start feeling a contraction coming, timing is difficult. Thus sometimes I was either too late or the opposite, overdosed a bit.
This photo shows almost how it feels to be a bit high on laughing gas :)
21:20 - The midwife decided to give me a glucose drip (through a hep-lock) as I had vomited several times over the last few hours due to, I think, the baby still being high up; every time I was positioned (either because they wanted to examine me or because I shifted position for pain management) with my legs bent up towards my stomach, I became sick.
22:00 - Shift change, new midwife team (midwife + nurse) headed by Emma
Around midnight - I was dilated 8 cm. So far so good. I continued using the laughing gas (with the occasional overdose - one time I told Peter and the midwife it was like "having an orgasm" *cough* *red cheeks*) and shifted positions (sometimes standing with the help of a walking chair, sometimes seated on chair, sometimes in bed - but lying in bed was just painful) regularly.
02:30 - I had difficulties urinating so I got a little help with that, since a full bladder can prevent the baby from moving down. I was still dilated 8, maybe 9 cm and the baby's head was still "bouncing" above spinae. The midwife consulted the doctor about breaking my water to move things along.
03:00 - The doctor broke my water (so-called amniotomy). Afterwards she placed a scalp electrode against the baby's head to monitor the heartbeat internally (this electrode was kept throughout until she was born). After the procedure I was only dilated 7 cm, as it is normal for the cervix to narrow following amniotomy.
04:30 - Next we tried sterile water injections against pain in my lower back from the contractions. This is a really painful method but the pain is short and supposed to release the body's own pain relief hormones and thus help with the contractions. Didn't work on me though! And Peter said it was the worst thing he'd experienced (as in witnessed) in his life. Even if it was short, I was in extreme pain for those 30 seconds and it's never fun to see someone you love in pain (obviously he felt like this from time to time throughout labour but the sterile water injections were probably the worst for him). I was already a bit "removed" in a way, as I was already living or internalising the pain, if that makes sense.
Afterwards we have read up a little on sterile water and it seems like there are mixed reviews on its benefits. What is clear is that while epidurals is an evidence-based method, the scientific evidence on sterile water is so-so.
05:20 - Since the sterile water didn't help against the pain and there had not been any progress for a while, the midwife recommended an epidural both to give me some pain relief after hours of intense contractions and to move things along. They prepare me (local anathesia) and also placed a new scalp electrode on the baby's head. Someone asked me afterwards if it wasn't difficult to lie still for the epidural when having intense contractions but I can't really remember; I'm sure it was but I must have wanted it so bad that maybe the contractions slowed down for a while??
The epidural gives me some time to eat (toast and another smoothie - I had been drinking smoothies throughout the night even if I got sick from time to time) and sleep (Peter also took a nap on the couch).
07:00 - At 7am there was another shift change and midwife Yvonne took over
07:30 - A new examination revealed status quo. The baby was not pushing downwards. The midwife decided to administer a contraction-stimulating drip. I still had had contractions while I rested (I was still hooked up to a monitor and could see the strength of the contractions there) but mine weren't strong or effective enough.
The drip started working but since the epidural hadn't been 100% effective - sometimes the case with epidurals - I felt stronger and stronger pain in my back on the right side so after a while the drip had to be turned down a little. During this time I also continued to change positions but the bed was still unpopular; it just hurt too much to lie down or even stand on my knees and lean towards the back of the bed.
11:00 - Finally some progress as the midwife could feel the baby's eyebrows when examining me. Another midwife was called in to do an ultrasound to see how the baby's head was positioned. The head was still not all the way down and was face-up instead of face-down (and had not moved despite me constantly changing positions and moving about throughout the night). While she had me in the bed (because of the exam) the midwife asked me to push through a few contractions even though we weren't at the pushing stage yet while she was massaging my cervix; this to try to help move things along. At this point I started using the laughing gas again (had stopped when I got the epidural). This seemed to do the trick.
11:38 - At 11:38 it was finally pushing time. I had decided earlier that I wanted to sit on a birthing stool while giving birth. Peter sat behind me on a chair, holding my shoulders and helping me through each contraction and push. The midwife sat in front of me guiding me when to push and when not to, and a nurse provided her with extra support.
The stool is recommended because it's a better position than lying down on a bed as it allows gravity to help and also is supposed to prevent tearing. It also allows the father to provide more effective support and to be almost as close as the mother once the baby is born and is placed on the mother's chest. The midwife had told me that once the baby was out they would help me up on the bed immediately as lying down helps stop bleeding.
12:04 - Our baby girl was born! Finally! The feeling when she* was in my arms was just amazing and I get tears in my eyes when I think about it. It's also amazing how the pain immediately disappears as soon as the baby is out! And how you forget the hardship immediately - minutes after she was born I said to Peter "next time I don't want that sterile water!"; evidently I was already thinking of having another one! :)
They helped me to the bed and a couple minutes later the placenta came out without me having to push. It was intact and I also lost very little blood, 2oo ml compared to the normal (average) 1 l. The umbilical cord was quite short and tore a little when she was born so they put extra staples to make sure Isolde got the last of all the good stuff. Peter then cut the cord as per new fathers' first duty :)
I was fortunate and didn't suffer any tearing, only small contusions - maybe because she wasn't a huge baby or because of the birthing stool or because I used that special oil in the last four weeks of pregnancy or maybe just because I was lucky! - hence didn't need any stitches.
It was first after Peter had cut the cord and they had examined me that we checked if it was a boy or a girl. I was just so happy that our baby was finally here and that s/he seemed healthy (ten fingers and ten toes, etc.) that the sex was secondary. But once we found out it felt like "of course it was a girl in there all this time!".
Isolde** was pretty quick at finding the breast - the feeling when she suckled for the first time was just so cool!
After that the midwife team left us alone for a while and then arrived with the "famous" tray with sandwiches, (non-alcoholic) cider and a Swedish flag. Later a new midwife came (new shift) to weigh and measure Isolde and checked that she was able to nurse and that she had pooped (the black poop, meconium) - I stayed in bed while Peter "supervised" the examination and dressed her for the first time***. After a few hours we were asked to pack up our stuff and move down to the ward as they needed the delivery room for another duo of parents-to-be.
The verdict
Giving birth is tough! But so worth it! Even if it took 30 hours from the first contraction and 19 hours from when we arrived in the hospital and the pain was sometimes almost unbearable. I managed pretty well though, thanks to the breathing (and relaxation) classes and of course some medical assistance, especially the epidural. I only broke down once really and it was just a short cry in the middle of the night/early morning when I felt "will it never end" and started talking about a caesarean section (which the midwife ignored). The rational side of me knew it would end at some point of course.
Peter was just amazing through it all and I couldn't have managed without him! He was that support I could count on and I knew he was on top of all the medical stuff and that I didn't need to be in full control all the time. It's funny though how exhausted he was the next day - he slept like a baby (no pun intended) the first night while I had had a flow of hormones keeping me awake - even though I was the one who had been running a marathon. But that's how it works - women are programmed to take care of the new arrival, get the breast-feeding going, etc. The second night I was "allowed" to relax a little.
* Though we didn't know she was a she yet then
** We didn't decide on the name until later
*** The vernix is left and they only dry off the worst of the blood, so her first clothes were pretty dirty afterwards :)
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
4 Centimetres
* Measuring babies are not an exact science though so give or take a centimetre.
Monday, January 24, 2011
Home Alone
(~7am: Peter got up and went to work)
~9am: I got up and managed to eat breakfast and read the paper while Isolde kept on sleeping
~10am: I took a shower (I needed to wash my hair but didn't want to take a long shower in case Isolde woke up so just took a quick shower), got dressed and put some make-up on
~11am: Isolde woke up. We spent around two hours nursing and cuddling. I talked to my friend Maria on the phone.
~13am: I ate lunch (left over pancakes, yoghurt and müsli) in 10 minutes while Isolde was seated in the bouncer. She almost fell asleep but then quickly changed her mood to "I don't want to sit here".
~13:30: I talked to Peter's god mother on the phone while Isolde fell asleep in my arms. I let her power nap on our bed.
~14: We left for our 14:30 appointment with the children's health centre (BVC). We finished the visit with breast-feeding, as Isolde wasn't happy with being weighed and measured in the nude.
~15:30: Walked through the shopping centre to look for more nursing tops on sale (didn't find any though) and buy dinner (made Ceasar salad)
~16:30: (back home) Isolde woke up after sleeping in the pram for a while and wanted to be fed.
~17:30: Peter got home and we took the car to go to three flat viewings (one is maybe interesting).
~18:30-21:30: Peter and I ate dinner and I took a shower to wash my hair while Isolde was sleeping in her car seat
~21:30: Isolde woke up and I have spent until now (23:30) nursing her on and off and in between she had cuddled with me or Peter (or so far it's more us cuddling her)
~23:30/now: Time for bed for all three of us!
* He will take his share of the parental leave from when Isolde is 9-10 months old
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Another Set of Lessons
- - Babies can get smelly feet (tåbira)
- - We're trying to accustom Isolde to noise and it seems to be working; today she slept through me baking banana bread with the help of the KitchenAid
- - Isolde has had a strong neck since she was born. She can't hold her head up properly yet of course but we make her practice on the floor for a few minutes every day. She usually starts with her right cheek on the floor, lifts her head and keeps it up for a while before turning her head to the right and putting it down. We think she's so advanced! :)
- - Mummy shouldn't climb a high stool to reach the flour on the top shelf when she's still healing "down under"...
- - Babies are cute even when they poop until their little faces turn red
On a Spiritual Note
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Three at the Dinner Table
Via Anna's iPhone
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
First Pediatrician* Visit
Monday, January 17, 2011
More Baby Lessons
- A breast-feeding pillow is really useful, both for the exercise itself but also for making a little safe nest on the sofa where Isolde can sleep afterwards (though we're putting her in her basket as much as possible so she gets used to it)
- Co-sleeping with a baby (in the same bed) is not as scary as I thought it would be, though we try to get her to sleep in the basket as much as possible
- Babies who had hiccups while in the belly are also the ones who hiccup once out-of-womb; Isolde is one of those
- One-week-olds can smile as a response to your baby talk, contrary to what they say (okay, maybe not completely consciously but still)
- It's amazing how she's her own little person already, even though that personality of course changes, or develops rather, every day
- She's much more awake from one day to the other, it's amazing how much difference a day makes
- Babies have a goldfish memory - sometimes when I'm feeding Isolde and she loses her grip of my breast to take a two second-long break she then turns her head around tries finding the nipple in the air
- We learned at the child health centre today that babies can get friction injuries on their finger and toe nails just from their fingers and toes rubbing against mittens or socks - not something Isolde suffes from yet but the nurse told us to check her nails regularly just in case
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Lessons So Far
Friday, January 14, 2011
First Walk
Via Anna's iPhone
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Introducing Isolde
Thank you so much for all your congratulations and best wishes!
More and newer photos coming soon (once we have had a chance to upload them from the camera)!
Sunday, January 09, 2011
It's a Girl!
Photo coming soon!
Via Anna's iPhone
Friday, January 07, 2011
Two Days Left??
31 December - my brother (boy)
1 January - my mum (girl, early hours of the morning)
2 January - Annika (girl), Helena L.
3 January - Anne (girl), Ingela (girl, 3.6 kg)
4 January - Pettas (girl, 03:50)
5 January - Skolfröken (girl)
6 January - Marianne (boy), Nana (boy, 3-6 January)
7 January - Anna (boy), Mrs Clapper (girl, 04:35), Elin (boy)
8 January - James
9 January - my dad (boy), Emma (girl)
10 January - Jessica (girl), Francesco (boy)
11 January - Marie (girl), Miranda (girl), Tales of a young momma (girl)
12 January - Annika (boy, middle of the night)
13 January - Bicke (girl), Helen (19:45), Taina (boy, 03:50, 3850 gr, 53 cm)
14 January - Katarina, Charlott (boy, 10:05), Saltistjejen (boy), Ingela S (girl)
15 January - Malin (boy, around 15:00), Marina (girl, midnight, 3.4 kg), Sandra (girl), Désirée (girl), Lotta (girl, 3,25 kg)
16 January - Irina (boy), Åsa (girl)
17 January - Beverly (boy)
18 January - Alexandra (boy)
19 January - Jenny H.
20 January - Edina (girl)
21 January -
22 January -
23 January -
24 January -
25 January -
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
Tuesday, January 04, 2011
Five Days to ETA...
31 December - my brother (boy)
1 January - my mum (girl, early hours of the morning)
2 January - Annika (girl), Helena L.
3 January - Anne (girl), Ingela (girl, 3.6 kg)
4 January - Pettas (girl, 03:50)
5 January - Skolfröken (girl)
6 January - Marianne (boy), Nana (boy, 3-6 January)
7 January - Anna (boy), Mrs Clapper (girl, 04:35), Elin (boy)
8 January - James
9 January - my dad (boy), Emma (girl)
10 January - Jessica (girl), Francesco (boy)
11 January - Marie (girl), Miranda (girl), Tales of a young momma (girl)
12 January - Annika (boy, middle of the night)
13 January - Bicke (girl), Helen (19:45), Taina (boy, 03:50, 3850 gr, 53 cm)
14 January - Katarina, Charlott (boy, 10:05), Saltistjejen (boy), Ingela S (girl)
15 January - Malin (boy, around 15:00), Marina (girl, midnight, 3.4 kg), Sandra (girl), Désirée (girl), Lotta (girl, 3,25 kg)
16 January - Irina (boy), Åsa (girl)
17 January - Beverly (boy)
18 January - Alexandra (boy)
19 January - Jenny H.
20 January - Edina (girl)
21 January -
22 January -
23 January -
24 January -
25 January -
Monday, January 03, 2011
Another 2010 List
1. Did you do something this year that you have never done before? Got knocked up. And got engaged. And got married :) Also, flew with a small plane (four PAX), as passenger, and went to Gekås in Ullared.
2. Did you keep any of your New Year Resolutions? Don't think I made any promises... I wrote the following on the blog in January 2010: My hopes and wishes for 2010 are private and personal but it ranges around the usual stuff of love and happiness and a hope that all my loved ones will stay healthy and happy.
3. Did anyone you know have a baby? No close friends (except some of Peter's)
4. Did anyone close to you pass away? Yes, my grandmother in October
5. Which countries did you visit? The Maldives, UK (England, Scotland and Wales), France, Italy, Belgium, Denmark
6. Is there something you missed in 2010 that you want in 2011? A new home, maybe a new job as well (towards the end of the year), visit by or with friends I haven't seen for a while
7. What date will you always remember? 5 April, our engagement day, and 1 November, our wedding day. I guess I should say 10 May too, which is when we found out we were pregnant, but as I had to double-check the date I'm not that great at remembering it :)
8. What's the best thing that happened to you this past year? I'm a bit repetitive...but our engagement, wedding and the pregnancy! And going to the Maldives, such a fantastic place!
9. What was your biggest mistake? Nothing really, except accidently getting pregnant, which turned out to be a blessing in disguise! :)
10. What was your best purchase? My red Hunter wellies or the (also red) Bugaboo pushchair
11. What did you spend most money on? Travelling
12. What made you most happy? Every day was another day with Peter
13. Have you been ill or injured yourself? Nope, except for a couple of colds and the stomach flu in November-December. Pregnancy affected my immune system, is clear.
14. What songs or artists will make you think about 2010? John Ossi (only band I saw in concert this year I think), otherwise Robyn
15. Did you feel better or worse during 2010 than previous years? Same, or happier in many ways, as Peter and I took "the step", but that doesn't mean I was unhappy before that
16. Is there anything you wish you had spent more time on? Baking, embroidery, scanning old photos and other "home projects". And reading books!
17. Is there anything you wish you spent less time on? Procrastinating
18. How was your Christmas? Nice and relaxing. Will post some photos soon.
19. Did you fall in love? Yes, with a little unborn life.
20. What television programme was best? Modern Family, or Sveriges skönaste familjer featuring our neighbours
21. Do you hate someone you didn't hate before? I don't hate anyone. Ever. Not worth the effort.
22. What was the best book you read this year? "At home" by Bill Bryson
23. What was your greatest musical discovery? Don't know, I'm so bad at remember artists and bands' names
24. Did you wish for something that you got? Commitment
25. Did you wish for something and didn't get it? Another election result
26. What was the best film of the year? One of these at the top of the list
27. What did you do on your birthday? Was treated to a surprise day by Peter
28. Who were the best people you met? Reunion with friends at James and Jill's wedding
29. How would you describe your dress style? Last few months, maternity, but otherwise no different from previous years
30. What made you feel well and happy? Peter, our unborn child, family and friends, work
31. Which celebrity do you have a crush on? No one in particular this year
32. Who did you miss? All friends I didn't see enough
33. What was your best month? Can't choose between April, May, July and November
34. Is there anything you could have done better? There is always room for improvement!
35. How will next year be different from the last one? Three in the family!
Sunday, January 02, 2011
Status with One Week to ETA
1 January - my mum (girl, early hours of the morning)
2 January - Annika (girl), Helena L.
3 January - Anne (girl), Ingela (girl, 3.6 kg)
4 January - Pettas (girl, 03:50)
5 January - Skolfröken (girl)
6 January - Marianne (boy), Nana (boy, 3-6 January)
7 January - Anna (boy), Mrs Clapper (girl, 04:35), Elin (boy)
8 January - James
9 January - my dad (boy)
10 January - Jessica (girl), Francesco (boy)
11 January - Marie (girl), Miranda (girl), Tales of a young momma (girl)
12 January - Annika (boy, middle of the night)
13 January - Bicke (girl), Helen (19:45)
14 January - Katarina, Charlott (boy, 10:05), Saltistjejen (boy), Ingela S (girl)
15 January - Malin (boy, around 15:00), Marina (girl, midnight, 3.4 kg), Sandra (girl), Désirée (girl)
16 January - Irina (boy), Åsa (girl)
17 January - Beverly (boy)
18 January - Alexandra (boy)
19 January - Jenny H.
20 January - Edina (girl)
21 January -
22 January -
23 January -
24 January -
25 January -
Saturday, January 01, 2011
Seen Films 2010
5+
Remember Me
A Single Man
Bröllopsfotografen
Revolutionary Road
Snabba cash
In the Loop
4+
The Social Network
Despicable Me
Toy Story 3
Salt
The Young Victoria
Up in the Air
This Is It
Three & Out
The Proposal
3+
Going the Distance
Letters to Juliet
Inception
Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows
RED
The American
Knight and Day
Iron Man 2
The A-Team
Tatuerad torso
Green Zone
Hurt Locker
The Nanny Diaries
The Invention of Lying
Sherlock Holmes
It's Complicated
State of Play
The Boat that Rocked
Julie & Julia
District 9
The Duchess
Girl with a Pearl Earring
2+
The Lovely Bones
Youth in Revolt
To Catch a Thief
The Men who Stared at Goats
1+
Alice in Wonderland
9
The Damned United
Transformers: The Revenge of the Fallen
-
Sex and the City 2
Read Books 2010
Pregnancy/giving birth preparation
Att möta förlossningssmärtan by Gudrun Abascal
Att föda: en barnmorskas tankar, råd och erfarenheter by Gudrun Abascal
The best
At Home by Bill Bryson
Funny and serious at the same time
Oscar Waos korta förunderliga liv by Junot Diaz
Laugh
9½ månad by Annika Lantz
We Are All Made of Glue by Marina Lewycka
Unpleasant
Mannen under trappan by Marie Hermanson
Scandalous
The Washingtonienne by Jessica Cutler
Disturbing but good
The Almost Moon by Alice Sebold
Feel good
31 Dream Street by Lisa Jewell
Left over
Jaded by Lucy Hawking
Another Must Have??
Updated List
1 January - my mum (girl, early hours of the morning)
2 January - Annika (girl), Helena L.
3 January - Anne (girl), Ingela (girl, 3.6 kg)
4 January - Pettas (girl, 03:50)
5 January - Skolfröken (girl)
6 January - Marianne (boy), Nana (boy, 3-6 January)
7 January - Anna (boy), Mrs Clapper (girl, 04:35), Elin (boy)
8 January - James
9 January - my dad (boy)
10 January - Jessica (girl), Francesco (boy)
11 January - Marie (girl), Miranda (girl)
12 January - Annika (boy, middle of the night)
13 January - Bicke (girl), Helen (19:45)
14 January - Katarina, Charlott (boy, 10:05), Saltistjejen (boy), Ingela S (girl)
15 January - Malin (boy, around 15:00), Marina (girl, midnight, 3.4 kg), Sandra (girl), Désirée (girl)
16 January - Irina (boy)
17 January - Beverly (boy)
18 January -
19 January - Jenny H.
20 January - Edina (girl)
21 January -
22 January -
23 January -
24 January -
25 January -
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