Show & Tell: Tea

Sparkling's last theme is tea (thanks for great topics!!).

I love tea! I drink several cups a day! My routine is tea in the morning, then coffee when I get to work, a cup of tea at 11ish, coffee after lunch and then tea in the afternoon around 3-4pm. Then a cup of tea again before bedtime. Sometimes I drink coffee after dinner but then only decaf unless it's the weekend. I don't worry about the caffeine in tea though because black tea has thirty times less caffeine than coffee (and red and green tea even less). I always drink black and red tea (and white) with milk but never take milk in green tea or infusions.

My absolute favourite tea is called Sir Williams. We always get ours at Sibyllan's tea shop in Sibyllegatan in Stockholm, but you can buy it under the name Mittens rike at Kahl's tea shops as well. It has a slightly smoky taste*, bergamot, hibiscus and a hint of jasmine. It contains seven different Chinese teas, e.g. Earl Grey, Jasmine, Lapsang and green tea.

Sir William's looks like this when you buy it from Sibyllan (image borrowed from Snor & Glamour - great name for a blog by the way!

Another favourite of mine, which I buy from the same tea shop is Earl Grey Cream, an Earl Grey tea flavoured with vanilla and bergamot. There's a Lady Grey Cream too but it's a bit too flowery and sweet for me (the combination taste sweeter somehow).



Another favourite is Rooibos tea. But it has to be plain Rooibos, not flavoured ones that unfortunately seems to be the only versions Swedish cafés serve. Very few Swedish tea brands (or teas sold in Sweden) do Rooibos well so I try to buy mine in the UK. But the kind my South African friend, living in the UK, brings from her home is the best!

In terms of tea in general, I like most teas unless they are too sweet or too fruity. It feels wrong for me to throw out tea I don't like that much. Unless it's awful I will drink it eventually, or bring it to work since others may like it (except the Brits I work with are like most British tea drinkers; they don't have a very sophisticated tea taste buds so prefer English Breakfast or PG Tips type tea**).

An early tea memory is drinking tea at my (maternal) grandmother's who was the one that introduced milk in my tea (if I remember correctly) and dunking cookies :) Another tea memory is having tea with my other (paternal) grandmother while watching House of Eliott on TV every Monday (think it was Mondays?). She usually had hers with lemon while I stuck to milk. Good memories to have now when one is no longer with us and the mind of the other is not so with it anymore.

Show & Tell themes for February coming later today!!


* But not that smoky cause I don't like smoky teas such as pure Lapsang
** A funny story about the difference between Swedish and British tea drinkers: In my work I often accompany British delegations on visits to Sweden. They often gets a searching look in their eye when going through the selection of teas at a Swedish meeting or a Swedish café. They are quick to ask "don't you have any normal tea?". "Of course", says the Swedish meeting host or the Swedish waitress, "here you go", and presents some Earl Grey tea bags. "No, regular tea", the Brit replies, because Earl Grey, whilst being the default tea in Sweden, is considered fancy in the UK. A little example of culture clash :)

Wednesday Recipe... or Swedish Homogeneity

As I've been home with a cold for two days I haven't really been flipping interesting recipes in the kitchen. I did make an omelette for lunch today but there wasn't anything special about it, and tonight I devoured a frozen pizza (Peter is having dinner at his parents - it's his dad's birthday - but I didn't feel like going).

So I thought I'd re-tell a cartoon strip I read in Svenska Dagbladet the other day. It's part of the series Stockholmsnatt ("Stockholm night") by Pelle Forshed and Stefan Thungren.

I read several blogs owned and written by Swedes living abroad and being an ex-expat myself I find discussions about Swedish character and Swedishness quite interesting. One thing they (not just bloggers but also "experts") say about us Swedes is that we are very fashion conscientious. For example, did you know that many fashion houses try their designs on the Swedish market before deciding whether to give them a go elsewhere?! The positive side to this is that we all look pretty good most of the time; the negative is of course that we all look the same, i.e. boring. Guess you can't have it both ways!

Anyway, here's the strip and a translation:




Guy 1: "So, this thing about Swedish fashion design being conformed is actually nonsense, there is an obscene amount of brands to choose between these days..."

Guy 2: "Yeah, but does that matter when all of them seem to have the same idea at the same time. Autumn has looked like one long sequel to Brokeback Mountain..."

Guy 1: "Oh bother! I could see right away that you are wearing Our Legacy and he Acne... The buttons and the seams give it away, completely different feeling. For me the difference is as as big as between dotted and striped..."

Guy 2: "Okay..."

Guy 2: "Apparently eskimos* have like 32 different words for snow... If you constantly live in the same barren environment I guess you are forced to become creative and see nuances in everything."

Guy 3: "Do you also get a feeling that we are approaching a solution to the mystery of the Swedish fashion people's..?"


* The pc word is "inuit" I know.

When Do They Work?

Feeling extra European this past weekend (will report on the elections soon - but probably not on this blog; will keep you posted), I thought of an article on European habits that I read a few weeks ago.

Apparently French people spend the most time sleeping and eating, and because of it (?) they live longer. The French gets an average of 9 hours of beauty sleep per day while the Japanese and Korean (okay, I guess this study was wider than just Europe...) sleep only seven hours and 50 minutes per day. One hour difference may not sound that much but if you think about the difference in a given week (63 compared to 56) or in a given month (252 vs 224), you will feel pretty sorry for the Asians in questions!

According to the study the French also spend more time on cooking and eating that anyone else and nearly double that of Americans (no surprise there; it's the fast-food nation after all) and Canadians. The Japanese may not sleep but they spend almost as much time on eating as the French - two hours daily at the table. Italians and Belgians are also pretty good at taking their time at the table. The Swedes are in the middle of the league table with an hour and half a day eating.

The French and the Japanese live as long though - 84.4 and 86 respectively for women - so life expectancy must be about more than just sleeping and eating since they scored quite different results, at least when it comes to sleep. And apparently the Spaniards live long too - 84.4 for wome - even though they didn't come out on top on any of the indicators.

The survey also revealed some not so surprising gender differences. In Italy men have around 80 minutes more a day of leisure time than women. Sad. 80 minutes is quite a lot! Stark contrast to Norway where men and women have the same amount of spare time.

But I wonder, with all that sleeping and eating, when to the French work??

Swedes According to the Stockholm Guidebook for Diplomats

Answering the telephone
Most Swedes will answer their phone by saying either their first or last name or both. People rarely pick up and say hello without giving you any indication of where you have called.
That's pretty useful actually; it's always frustrating when you call companies or other workplaces in the UK for example and someones just answers "hello", and the first question you have to ask is "is this x?".

Be on time!
Swedes are neurotic about punctuality, agendas and timetables. It is considered very disrespectful to be late both professionally and privately. If you are late, do call and let the waiting person(s) know and you will be easily forgiven. Always apologise if you are late!
Good custom I think, except the obsession with numbering the weeks! "Yes, I can meet you Monday week 16." Que??

Calling others
On weekdays you can call people between 9am - 10pm. Do not call before 10am on weekends. It is also considered bad form not to introduce yourself even if the person answering is not the one you are looking for.
I would probably not call people before 8am or after 9pm, 10pm if it's a good friend.

Condolences
If someone loses a member of the family it is common to call and give your condolences. If it is not a close friend a written note sent home is an appreciated gesture and if you want to send flowers any kind will do.

First name basis
Swedes are informal and rarely use titles when addressing one another.
A nice custom, why this Mr and Mrs and Ms in other countries!

Gender roles and equality
Most women work outside the home both before and after marriage (oh, my God, how could they?!). They also continue working after having children (nah, it can't be true!), but after a maternity leave of 12-18 months (hopefully it will soon be less than that, when more dads start taking more of their entitlement). Consequently men are expected to do a larger burden of the work within the home. However, most will agree that the domestic chores still largely fall under the woman's domain (shouldn't be, but sadly it is so). Some traditional gestures are still upheld. For example, men often open doors for women and let them enter first. Men often propose marriage even though it is often a common decision between the two parties without involvement from the families.

Lunch
Most restaurants have daily lunch specials. It is reasonably priced and this is the main meal of the day for many Swedes.
Dagens rätt is an excellent invention!

Monarchy
Although the socialist party has governed Sweden for most of the past hundred years, the monarchy has not been threatened by public opinion. The Swedish monarch is down to earth and well linked and respected by most Sweden.
Yes, we're all buddies with the King. I think the "socialists" would prefer being called "social democrat" though.

Peacekeepers
Swedes shun conflicts. They prefer not to raise an uncomfortable issue if it means risking having to raise their voice.
But if we are peacekeepers I assume it means talking about difficult issues once in a while.

Pets
Swedes are fond of their animals. Cats and dogs are treated as family and live inside the home. However, there are regulations for how to keep your pet. They must not make noise that disturb the neighbours. When taking your dog for a walk you are expected to pick up your pet's disposal and bruing it to a rubbish bin. The pet should get the necessary shots. Nametags with address and phone numbers are helpful if the animals strays. It is fairly uncommon to neuter your dogs while it is more common with cats.
Didn't know that last thing about neutering.

Queuing strategies
In order to make queuing easier many places have a ticket machine by the entrance. Pull a number and then wait for your number to be shown on a display.
So efficient. Lets you do other things while you wait as well, and most importantly, prevents people from jumping the queue.

Talk about the weather
As the fall and winter months are so long in Sweden, Swedes are obsessed with the weather. One can say that it is a common denominator for all Swedes. Swedes love to talk about the weather. Talk about the weather is often used as an icebreaker.
We share this with the Brits (or at least the English) who are equally obsessed with the weather, but perhaps not due to long autumn and winter. Instead I tend to believe in the antropologist Kate Fox's explanation that we do it because we are a reserved people who really believe in personal integrity and the weather is almost the only neutral topic there is. She agrees that it is also used as an icebreaker.

Thank You
Swedes like to say thank you many times through a conversation. It can be hard to end a telephone conversation before both parties have said thank you at least twice.
I have heard foreigners in Sweden say this also but I hadn't thought about it. It's true though. One example people give is when we thank the cashier for our change, money that is righfully ours. I guess we thank him/her for the action of handing it over rather than the money itself. But I can't imagine that this is unique to Sweden; other nationalities must do this too.

Understatements
Jantelagen is a term often used. It means that you should never think that you are better than anyone else. What Swedes consider bragging would in many countries only be to tell it like it is. Another thing we share with the English although they take it to extremes - Kate Fox has many good examples in her book!

Visiting friends and acquaintances
Swedes like to plan things (no kidding!). If you want to visit someone, call in advance and ask them if it is convenient. A Swede might find it embarrassing if their home is not orderly or if they do not have anything to offer you when you come. A need of privacy can also be disturbed by a surprise visit.
At least we still entertain IN her our homes. The French for example, usually meet up with friends at restaurants. When it comes to kids though, usually they just ring the doorbell and ask if X wants to come out and play. This is different in e.g. the USA where "playdates" are the norm, set up by the parents.